Got Worry?

Hi, there

I found this interesting article on worry from Kim Allen, from HeartMaths. A little bit of motivation for a long weekend, so I thought I’d share. Oh, and have a fabulous long weekend!!!

Regards,
M.

Got Worry?

Care is a good thing. How much better we feel when someone cares for us. Care even feels good when we give it to someone else. You could say a sincere feeling of care reduces stress, whether we're on the giving or receiving end.
Yet when we look up care in the dictionary, the first definitions are not what we think of when we want to be cared for: A state of mind in which one is troubled; worry, anxiety, or concern.1

Well that makes sense. After all, aren't the people or issues you care for or about the very same things that cause you worry, anxiety or frustration? How often do you fuss or fret over something you don't care about?

If what you care about is causing you stress it could be because it's crossed the line into overcare.

We've all been on the receiving end of overcare: the micro manager, the perfectionist, and the overbearing parent who do what they do because they say (and believe!) they care. In actuality, however, they've taken their care to an inefficient extreme and turned it into overcare. Overcaring is a monumental drain on all concerned and one of the most common sources of stress. And, left unchecked, overcaring can lead to burnout. That's when we quit; we stop caring all together and that's not a healthy alternative.

Now, watch out! Don't start to overcare (worry!) because you overcare! We all do! Rather, get back to balanced care. First, disengage from the stressful feeling: Heart focus; heart breathing. Next, recall a sincere feeling of care (to have an inclination, liking, fondness, or affection1) for someone or something. Now you're ready to ask yourself, "What would be a more efficient attitude or action that would reduce my stress and get me back to balanced care?"

And follow through. This won't reduce your stress unless you take action!

1http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/care